Will I Feel Awkward at My Boudoir Session? How We Make It Comfortable

Yes, probably, at least at the start. And that’s not a problem.

Arriving at a private studio, taking your clothes off in front of a stranger, and trying to look natural in front of a camera is an objectively unusual thing to do. Feeling a bit awkward about it doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong. It means you’re a normal person doing something outside your usual experience.

What the Awkwardness Feels Like in Practice

The most common description: I didn’t know what to do with my hands.

Beyond that: a kind of self-consciousness that makes you very aware that you’re standing in a room in your underwear while someone points a camera at you. A tendency to narrate your own awkwardness. A stiffness in the body from trying to hold yourself correctly without knowing what correctly looks like.

This is almost universal. Nearly everyone feels some version of it in the first part of their session.

How the Session Is Structured to Handle It

Makeup first.

You arrive and immediately go into the makeup chair for 45–60 minutes. By the time you’re in front of the camera, you’ve already been in the space for a while, you’ve had a conversation, you’ve had time to get used to being there.

Constant direction.

Sabrina directs every shot with specific instruction. You’re never left to figure it out yourself. This removes the largest single source of awkwardness: not knowing what to do.

Sets and changes as natural breaks.

Moving between the studio’s four sets and doing outfit changes gives natural pause points. These tend to reset nervous energy and let people come back fresh.

Genuine conversation in between.

The session isn’t relentlessly formal. Sabrina talks to clients throughout. There are moments that aren’t on. These contribute to the relaxation arc over two hours.

The Awkwardness Arc

Every session follows a similar pattern.

The first twenty or thirty minutes: highest self-consciousness. People are stiff, overthinking. The direction helps but the underlying tension is still there.

The middle of the session: things shift. The self-narration quiets down. People start following direction rather than fighting it.

The last thirty minutes: often feel the most like yourself. By then you’ve moved around the studio, changed outfits, been directed through dozens of shots.

What You Can Do to Help

• Decide in advance that the first bit will be awkward, that way it won’t feel like failure when it is

• Follow the direction rather than second-guessing it, Sabrina can see what it looks like, you can’t

• Say something if something genuinely doesn’t feel comfortable

• Don’t try to fix your expression, letting your face just be tends to photograph much better

The Difference Between Feeling Awkward and Looking Awkward

These are not the same thing. The positions that feel most natural in the moment are often not the most flattering ones on camera. And the positions that feel a bit unusual or silly are often the ones that produce the best images.

Women who felt they spent the whole shoot looking ridiculous often see their images and think I actually don’t look ridiculous at all. That gap is why following the direction matters more than how it feels in the moment.

The Short Answer – Will I feel Awkward?

Yes, you’ll probably feel awkward at the start. The session is built to handle that. By the halfway point, most people feel significantly more comfortable. By the end, most people are surprised the time went as fast as it did.

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Apricot Aura is a private boudoir photography studio in central Geelong, Victoria. @apricotaura